Church weddings

During the marriage service

St James's Church welcomes couples who wish to discuss getting married or having a marriage blessing in our church. Besides meeting individually with a member of the clergy, couples might be invited to meet together to share common experiences and learn from one another. Have a look at the Chuch of England's page Thinking of a Church Wedding? to see if you have a Qualifying Connection enabling you to be married at St James's. Please then contact the office to discuss marriage at St James's. Our beautiful building and facilities will make your special day particularly memorable.

Getting marriedMarriage may not be not for everyone, though here again the Church can be present at this stage of life's journey, this time with a couple seeking love, support and prayer as they commit themselves to one another. A wedding is a great and very public moment in life – joyous, but also solemn as two people pledge to be with one another until the end of their lives.

In a wedding service there is a ritual of separation as bride and groom enter with their supporters, but are left alone with the minister to make their vows. They then leave the church together having journeyed together from being two single people to being a married couple. At St James's the couple walk the length of the church at the end of the service – their journey continues as they head out through their families and friends and out of the door, into the world. Briefly they have separated from that world, and now return to it in a new way. Just as in baptism we have the visible sign of water with spoken words so in marriage we have the visible sign of joined hands with spoken words. A ring or rings worn on a particular finger is further physical evidence of a new life that has begun.

Sample Order of Service

The Procession
Hymn
The Preface and Declarations
The Collect
Readings
Address
Hymn
The Marriage
Signing of the Registers
The Prayers
Hymn
The Blessing
The Recession 

Bible readingsSome Suggested Readings

During the marriage there is an opportunity for one or two short readings from the Bible. You might find it helpful, therefore, to consider this selection of Biblical passages although, of course, there may be another scriptural extract which you prefer.

Old Testament Readings 
Genesis 1 vv 26-28, v31 
Song of Solomon 8 vv 6-7 
Jeremiah 31 vv 31-32, 33-34
New Testament Readings 
John 15 vv 9-12 
Romans 12 vv 1-2, 9-18 
1 Corinthians 13 vv 1-11
Colossians 3 vv 12-17 
1 John 4 vv 7-12 

See the full texts in the page Suggested readings for marriages.

Wedding flowersFloral Displays

You are welcome to organise your own flowers, but will need to liaise with the church office to arrange access.

If you need further information, please contact the church flower organiser, Coryn Robinson, on 020 8979 6786.
See more Wedding flowers on the images pages.

Music

Several months before your wedding, the clergyperson who will be officiating will contact you to arrange a time to meet with you to discuss the service. This discussion will include your choice of music or you could speak to the organist. If you have no preferences, the organist will be happy to select music best suited to the organ of St James’s Church. Contact the organist.

Fees 2017

A deposit of £100 is payable when the wedding is initially booked. The final amount should be paid no later than two weeks before the wedding. An invoice will be sent to you, detailing the final balance due. You may pay in cash in person, or cheques should be made payable to St James's Church PCC. 
Statutory fees for Wedding in Church: £424
Publication of Banns of Marriage: £28
Vergers X2: £60
Church heating: £30
Sound Desk (for any recorded music): £40
Organist: £160
Bells (after the service): £40